The new Obsession (2026) movie that was released a few weeks ago has the ENTIRE internet in a chokehold. Yes there’s a lot of praise. And a slowly climbing amount of criticism. But does that really matter when it’s already made over $98 million worldwide? It’s even more impressive when you consider the budget of less than $1 million, no star-studded cast, and - to top it all of - a 27 year old director.

Tells you everything you need to know about the world today.

Nobody needed convincing to watch a story about obsession, because obsession is already the dominant religion of modern relationships.

In the movie, the leading man causes his work crush to become obsessed with him through supernatural means - and things go south very quickly.

The takeaway was to be careful what you wish for, because you just might get it. But my singular thought was - do we really want people to obsess over us, or do we just like the idea of it?

Once someone’s on a pedestal, you’re not dating them anymore; you’re worshipping. And are humans, even the most angelic ones, really deserving of worship?

HECK no.

Human beings make terrible gods. But we sure like the idea of being one.

Truth is, you can only attempt to derive eternal satisfaction and fulfillment out of a fellow human for so long - before the resentment sets in over why they’re not really behaving like the god/goddess you made them out to be.

Christ said:

“You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.” (Matthew 22:37)

Does that mean He’s insecure? Au contraire, it’s because YOU are.

The human tendency to fixate, to obsess over someone has to go somewhere. If it does not go upward, it usually collapses sideways onto another person.

That is why so many relationships are now being labelled as “co-dependent”, or “anxious-avoidant”, and even just outright “toxic”.

What could have been considered healthy, now starts to feel suffocating and draining. One person becomes responsible for regulating another person’s entire inner world.

No earthly relationship survives that forever.

A spouse, relative, or friend cannot carry your loneliness, heal your insecurity, absorb your trauma, validate your existence, entertain you constantly, reassure you hourly, and function as your reason to live. All at the same time.

That, quite literally, is God’s job. When we’re rooted in His Word, we usually stop demanding worship from each other. And when we’re not worshipping each other in delulu land, we will, ironically, love better.

It is, after all, a lot easier to love someone freely (and as your equal) when there’s no pedestals involved.

If you find yourself either love-bombing or crashing out over someone you fancy, ask yourself this: Are you making an idol out of a mere mortal?

There's a conversation happening in a Christian singles FB group right now that is hilarious, awkward - and surprisingly revealing.

It started with a 36-year-old woman - let's call her Shannon. She had hopped on a Zoom call with a dating coach, who encouraged her to lower the range… and justified it with a formula. So she announced she was expanding her dating age range down to 25.

The first response came fast: "My brain thinks I'm babysitting….except I'm not getting paid for it."

The thread exploded. And underneath all the jokes, emojis and mild outrage was the real question nobody was quite saying out loud:

Does age actually matter? Or are we mostly terrified of how it looks?

For the uninitiated, there’s an old social guideline that says the youngest person you can date without people calling the FBI is: “half your age plus seven.”

Shannon did the math: 36 ÷ 2 + 7 = 25.

The internet says she’s good. Technically in bounds.

But here’s the funny part. Shannon does not want to use the same math to expand her outer age limit.

That’s the whole problem with dating rules. Nobody applies the half they don’t like. We use the math when it benefits us.

The women most resistant to dating younger had solid reasons.

One said some of the men now technically in her acceptable range were kids she was babysitting when she was 13.

Another said, a 25-year-old who spends eight hours gaming, has no direction, avoids responsibility, and still needs his mom to handle basic adult tasks is probably not a great match for a 36-year-old woman who's spiritually grounded, emotionally mature, owns a home, and is ready to build a family.

Then a man said the quiet part out loud.

“I’m 28 and I would not consider dating a woman significantly older than me. The reason isn’t insecurity, it’s about leadership. I am under-equipped to lead someone with more life experience than me.”

He’s right. This matters in Christian households where men take the Ephesians 5 headship call seriously. Because whoever has more experience, more maturity, more financial footing - that person is going to naturally pull toward the lead.

And for what it's worth - Adam was not younger than Eve. And she still got him to eat the fruit. Imagine if she had a decade on him.

Spoiler: there is no verse that says “thou shalt date within five years of thine own age.”

What Scripture does talk about is being equally yoked. And 2 Corinthians 6:14 is not subtle about it:

“Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?”

The equally yoked standard has nothing to do with birth years. It has everything to do with: Are you both running toward God? The yoke is about the soul. Not the age.

So expand the age range if you want to. Lower it, raise it, or throw the spreadsheet out entirely.

Just use the right filter.

The question isn’t how old are they? It's is this the one God has for me?

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