Chipotle's CEO Scott Boatwright recently mentioned something that seems so obvious - but reveals so much about us as humans.

The Mexican food chain, famous for its bowls & burritos, is also praised for its rapid-fire assembly-line process. Apparently it's so insanely quick, each store prepares about 120 orders per hour (and they still don't think it's fast enough!!) 👀

For the humble, hungry customer though, this incredibly efficient process can be... a tad intimidating (I can personally attest to that!)

All that quick scooping, sliding , packing, bagging - in a matter of a few seconds! You know you don't want to 'break the groove' - and incur the imagined wrath of both staff and the growing ravenous line behind you - by requesting a smidge more salsa.

It feels Oliver Twist-ian, a.k.a. practically illegal! Or is it?

Well, it took the CEO himself to remind customers - you know what, you are actually allowed to use your right to freedom of speech….to ASK FOR MORE!

He doesn't want you to leave feeling inferior & shortchanged - he wants you to be fully satisfied!

Thanks Scott…. but Scripture Kinda Said it First

Scott’s call - to not be afraid to literally just ASK - brings to mind so vividly what the Lord says, via his apostle James: "You have not, because you ask not!"

It's really that elementary, but we're so caught up in the 'what-if’s’ - full of doubt over our worth and the Lord's goodness/attentiveness, that we refuse to even bring Him our requests for what lies closest to our hearts!

Honestly, just think of how insulting this would be to any earthly parent, for a child to refuse to turn to him/her for what they want.

And yet, God keeps reassuring us that He will always give us a ready audience, and provide us what we desire. Just look at the some of the many times this is reinforced in the Bible:

It took a burrito maker to bring home this truth: life really is so much simpler when we make use of this divine privilege we've all been given - the privilege of asking, whether what you desire is a spouse, a better job, or a clearer calling for your life.

Because we know we have a good Father who is only too happy to respond to us, in the best manner possible.

So go for it - what will you ask Him for today?

A guy joined a few Christian singles groups, both online and in person. A few months later, he posted on a Christian subreddit trying to figure out why the whole thing felt so strange and weirdly disconnected.

He wasn’t ranting. He wasn’t bitter. He grew up around church, so none of the faith stuff was foreign to him. But stepping into the modern “Christian singles world” felt deeply unnatural, like entering an artificial subculture.

He wondered if he was the only one who felt that way.

He wasn’t.

What followed wasn’t a big fight or theological debate. It felt more like a collective sigh of recognition. Dozens of Christians admitting they’d noticed the same weirdness.

The OP wrote:
“Everyone talks about wanting marriage, but hardly anyone is willing to initiate anything. People will spend hours analyzing relationships theoretically, yet seem terrified to even ask someone out for coffee.

There’s endless analysis, endless ‘wisdom,’ endless long conversations that go nowhere. There’s this strange mindset that God will somehow orchestrate a perfect cinematic relationship, so nobody has to risk vulnerability, rejection, or direct honesty.”

He described how almost every conversation eventually turned into rigid debates about masculine leadership, submission, gender roles, and everyone trying to sound emotionally mature and spiritually deep..

“It stops feeling like real human interaction and starts sounding more like people reciting talking points they heard on podcasts or sermons online.”

Then a 41-year-old widow stepped into the thread and didn’t hold back:
“It’s because modern Christian dating is overwhelmed with self righteousness and an almost complete lack of humility. People are unrealistic in their expectations (NO ONE is without baggage of some type, flaws galore, etc, even if they’re a smoke show)… These people literally think their expectations are fine and realistic, and that they have all the time in the world to wait for their dreamboat… Play ridiculous games, win no prizes.”

That one hit a nerve.

One commenter replied: “Yes, THIS! I’ve noticed lots of Christians have very high expectations. Some don’t even meet up to the very high expectations themselves.”

Another added: “Everyone has preferences and dealbreakers, but reading some of these multi paragraph specific lists really bring home the idea that people have a whole lot that they want… but don’t you dare criticize or question them!”

The thread kept peeling back layers.

One guy described the atmosphere inside actual church singles groups:
“A church singles group I was a part of, to be frank, had quite a few socially awkward types… Then one rather well put together lady attorney showed up… very attractive, well-dressed, she left the singles Bible study early, and I never saw her again.”

He mentioned that many women got the “ick” from the awkward energy and ended up back on dating apps instead.

By the end, the OP captured something a lot of singles have probably been feeling for a long time, but rarely say out loud:
“It honestly made me question how much of the struggle is about ‘waiting on God’ and how much of it is simply fear: fear of rejection, fear of discomfort, fear of vulnerability, fear of making the wrong choice, fear of simply acting like a real person.”

The thread didn’t really offer neat solutions. It mostly felt like a group of ordinary Christians admitting the machine isn’t working the way they hoped it would.

What do you think? Have you noticed the same thing, or has your experience been completely different?

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