“Breadcrumbing” is everywhere.
From TikTok to Reddit to Insta reels — and even your group chat.

Just enough attention to keep you hooked,
never enough to feel secure.

A random like on your story.
No reply to your DM. Snapchat streaks.
And maybe, if you’re lucky, a “hey u up?” text.

Our Lord calls Himself the Bread of Life (John 6:35).
Not crumbs, but nourishment.

He doesn’t tease.
He feeds.

Loaves and fishes for the crowds.
Breakfast on the beach for His disciples.
Even a heavenly feast — not because we need it, but because He delights in giving (Revelation 19:9).

The Bread of Life is a gift that keeps on giving.

The way we relate to people often reflects how we relate to God.

Partial attention. Inconsistent affection. Mixed signals?
That’s crumbs.

Showing up fully, steadily, and intentionally?
That’s bread.

Crumbs leave you anxious and empty.
Bread is wholesome, safe, and trustworthy.

So whether it’s dating, friendship, or family —
Christ sets the bar.

Feed people with consistency and presence,
not confusion and cliffhangers.

Have you ever been in the talking stage with someone and found yourself asking—or being asked—that question?

Maybe you’ve answered (or heard) the following answers: “
I’m avoidant.”
“I’m anxious.”
“I’m pretty secure.”

But here’s a thought: the way we attach to people often mirrors how we’re (not) attached to God.

Anxious attachment clings.
It scans for abandonment.
It reads silence as rejection and distance as danger.

Biblically, it looks a lot like Israel in the wilderness; freed, provided for, yet constantly asking, “Is God really with us?” (Exodus 17:7).

When trust in God wavers, other people become the proof we chase. Reassurance becomes a need instead of a gift.

Avoidant attachment does the opposite.
It self-protects, self-soothes, and keeps exits unlocked.

Think Jonah—running from intimacy with God, avoiding obedience, and distancing himself from both people and calling. Not because he was strong and independent, but because he was afraid.

Scripture keeps pointing us back to the same center: “Abide in Me” (John 15:4).

Secure attachment, spiritually and relationally, flows from abiding. From knowing you’re held whether someone stays or leaves.

When God is our primary attachment, people stop being our saviors - or our threats.
We can love without clinging, stay without fear, even leave without hatred.

So maybe attachment styles aren’t flaws to fix but signals to listen to.
They ask a quieter question:
Where am I placing my sense of safety?
Is it strong enough to hold me?

And here’s the silver lining: being bad at human attachment doesn’t disqualify you from God’s grace.

David was famously (or infamously) complicated in relationships — intense, impulsive, and often messy. He loved deeply, failed publicly, hurt people he shouldn’t have.

And yet Scripture still calls him “a man after God’s own heart” (1 Samuel 13:14). Not because he was flawless, but because he kept returning. He repented. He turned his heart back toward God again and again.

The invitation isn’t to master human relationships before you’re worthy of love. It’s to attach yourself first to the One who knit you together in the womb, who doesn’t withdraw, withhold, or disappear.

When that attachment deepens, the others begin to heal.

Your security won’t come from being chosen by someone else—
but from knowing you already are.