This week, Kaytlin O’Neall and Drew Brown made headlines—for waiting.
These two Christian singles, who started dating in Jan. 2021, held off until Oct. 5, 2025, for their very first kiss.
That’s right. No “ifs” or “buts,” and no giving in to the flesh.
In a world obsessed with instant gratification, they chose a different path—one that followed the Word (1 Corinthians 6:18-20 and Hebrews 13:4).
“All we’ve ever wanted is to honor each other and the Lord through our boundaries,” O’Neall told PEOPLE magazine. “We didn’t want any regrets from crossing physical lines prematurely.”
Social media critics called it extreme—or even brainwashed—but the couple just smiled and stood firm. They weren’t following the crowd—they were following conviction. And in the end, they pulled it off. 🥳 🙌
Now, that’s the kind of story we could all use a little more of!
In today’s email:
I’m a Pentecostal Worship Leader. He’s a Baptist Pastor. Can this work?
Alex Hormozi’s dating advice? It’s surprisingly biblical.🤯
Meet this week’s bachelors & bachelorettes! 🎉
I’m a Pentecostal Worship Leader. He’s a Baptist Pastor. Can this work?
I (24F) am a Pentecostal worship leader; my boyfriend (26M) is a Reformed Baptist youth pastor. He is kind, loving, knows me well, and has good character.
He used to be Pentecostal too, but over time he shifted to Reformed theology. I’ve been learning a lot from the Reformed side—I actually understand theology and Scripture better there—but I still carry my Pentecostal experiences and beliefs, and this creates a deep internal conflict.
What makes it even more complicated is that my mom is an elder who is firm about staying Pentecostal.
I am worried about how things will play out in the long term. Can our love bridge the theological gap? Are these differences something we can work through together?
People will tell you: "You're both Christians! It's fine!"
And it's true.
You share the core gospel: You are on the same page on the “essentials”—that Jesus is God, that He died for our sins, rose again, and that we are saved by grace through faith.
The differences? You know, the 'non-essentials'—speaking in tongues, healing, worship styles. Usually, they aren't deal-breakers.
But… in your case, that’s not true.
Your situation is different—you’re both leaders.
You’re a worship leader with deep family ties to the Pentecostal church. He’s a youth pastor at his Reformed Baptist church—actively teaching and shaping young minds.
What’s non-essential for others becomes essential for you. The stakes are just higher.
4 Hard Questions You MUST Answer
Both of you need to answer these honestly and directly. Do not avoid or settle for vague, non-answers. These 4 tests will reveal if your relationship can work
Test 1: The "Can You Explain My Side?" Test
Ask him to explain why the gift of tongues is important to you. Can he do it without mocking or dismissing it?
You explain why his church worships the way it does. Can you do it without calling it "cold" or "dead"?
🚩If either one of you fails this test—if you can’t respectfully articulate the other’s views—you’re not ready for a lifetime of this.
Test 2: The "Conviction" Test
Get crystal-clear answers on his Biblical position on:
- Tongues, healing, prophecy
- A woman’s role in the church
- What you’ll teach your future kids
Listen closely to his answers.
- If he says, “We’ll figure it out later,” that’s avoidance.
- If he says, “Once you study the Bible and our tenets deeply, you’ll see from my POV,” he expects to change you.
- Is he judgmental? Does he come across as spiritually superior?
Test 3: The "Video" Test
Watch objections to Calvinism/Reformed Theology together. How does he react?
- Does he listen and engage thoughtfully?
- Does he dodge, deflect, or get defensive?
Now, watch critiques of Pentecostalism together. How do you react?
- Can you acknowledge issues like emotionalism or false prophecies without getting defensive?
🚩 If you can’t have these talks with humility, this marriage will be a theological battleground.
Test 4: The "Family Pressure" Test
Sometimes the couple could navigate the difference, but their families can’t
- Is your family threatening to boycott the wedding?
- Is his church family saying you’re "unequally yoked"?
This external pressure can poison a marriage from the start. The rejection from your people can be devastating. Sometimes, the most loving thing is to admit the obstacles are just too great.
The Truth You Need to Hear
When two people in leadership positions hold fundamentally different theological convictions, one of three things happens:
One person changes. They deeply study Scripture and their views genuinely shift.
You agree to disagree. You go to different churches and live in constant theological friction.
You part ways. You find someone who aligns closely with what you believe.
This isn’t about whether he loves you, or about his character.
This is about personal compatibility.
Though you both follow the same Lord, moving forward without resolving these “non-essential” differences will create a constant friction that marriage will only magnify.
Alex Hormozi’s Dating Advice? It’s surprisingly Biblical.🤯
Alex Hormozi isn’t a pastor. He’s a secular business guy. But in a recent viral clip, he somehow described the blueprint for a godly spouse.
Sometimes, the world stumbles right into a biblical truth. And this tweet is absolutely worth redeeming.
Here’s his advice, broken down:
1. “Find someone who kills drama instead of starting it…”
The Biblical Vibe: This is wisdom straight from the source. As Proverbs 21:9 says, “Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife.”
Drama isn't cute; it's corrosive.
A woman who chooses calm over chaos? She’s a rare gem..
2. “Tells you ‘You’re better than these guys, you can beat them,’ and wants you to win even more than you do.”
The Biblical Vibe: That’s your God-given helpmeet in action (Genesis 2:18). She sees your potential and “spurs you on toward love and good deeds” (Hebrews 10:24)
This person isn’t just your wife; she’s your biggest cheerleader.
3. “Now, become the man required to attract that woman, and marry her the moment you find her.”
The Biblical Vibe: You won’t “find” a Proverbs 31 woman by luck or by scrolling. You attract her by becoming a Proverbs 1–30 man.
So, Here’s Your Reality Check ✅
Hormozi didn’t quote a single Bible verse, but his advice is fire because it aligns with a design that’s been there all along - in the Bible.
Is she a drama-killer? Is she pushing you toward who God’s called you to be? And more importantly—instead of just looking for the right woman, start becoming the kind of man who’d attract her!
Who’s in the Singles Spotlight this week?
SUJOY
Doctor. Dreamer. Entrepreneur.
31M | 180 cm | Goa, India | MD (Oncology, AIIMS) | Konkani, English | Catholic
Hailing from sunny Goa, Dr. Sujoy is a highly skilled oncologist and hospital entrepreneur. Trained at AIIMS, he blends excellence with a human touch, earning trust from patients facing life’s toughest battles.
A modern Renaissance man, Sujoy does it all - outside of his day job, he’s a classical/rock guitarist, self-taught coder, and football enthusiast! His disciplined, vice-free lifestyle - rooted in faith - includes early gym sessions, prayer, and journaling.
He seeks a graceful, faith-driven woman who values communication and shares his love for animals or music.
SEYI
Graceful. Strong. Purposeful.
40F | 156 cm | Calgary, CAN | Bachelor’s in Physics | Pentecostal Christian | English, Yoruba
The first thing you notice about Seyi is her bright, megawatt smile, and her readiness to have a laugh!
An intensely sweet and caring personality, Seyi has made her home in crisp, cold Canada, where she works as an employment counselor (and is eyeing IT frontiers).
Rooted in a lively Yoruba-Christian clan and anchored by her faith in Christ, she pours kindness into community mentoring, family feasts, and outdoor jaunts.
She seeks a true companion who is honest, goal-driven, & adventure-ready. Bonus if he echoes her love of humor, and passion for the outdoors!
More singles you shouldn’t miss:
Dahn
Software whiz. Rooted in Christ.
29M | 175 cm | Ontario, CAN | Pentecostal | Bachelor’s | English, Tamil | Software Dev
Ideal Match: A professional, faith-filled woman, with a passion for music. Preferably in Canada.
Rebhi
Ambitious and
Family-Oriented.
25F | 168 cm | Vizag, IND | Catholic | Master's | Tamil, English | Lecturer
Ideal Match: A Catholic Indian who is well-settled in career, and is currently abroad or open to relocation.
Abby
Outdoor-enthusiast. Community-oriented.
27F | 163 cm | Saskatchewan, CAN | Baptist | Degree in Social Work | English | Childcare
Ideal Match: Someone who values his faith in Christ strongly - bonus if he prefers small towns over busting cities!
Layton
Sarcastic about life. Serious about faith.
38M | 175 cm | San Diego, US | Protestant | Associate Degree | English | Hospitality
Ideal Match: A Christian woman - a genuine believer, who goes against the mainstream, wants kids, and loves to laugh!
Gabriella
High-achiever, with a heart of gold.
37F | 168 cm | Bangalore, IND | Methodist | Master's | Tamil, English | Marketing Head
Ideal Match: A genuine believer who is emotionally mature & financially responsible, preferably located in Bangalore.
Smitha
Berlin Based.
Bangalore Rooted.
37F | 156 cm | Berlin, GER | Born-Again | MS Computers | English, Kannada | Software Engineer
Ideal Match: A humble, God-fearing Christian, open to relocating to Germany or the EU
Jason
Acclaimed Podcaster.
37M | 165 cm | Mumbai, IND | Marthoma | Master’s | English, Malayalam | Banker & Podcaster
Ideal Match: An intelligent, godly woman - preferably a Malayalee, who is willing to relocate to Mumbai.
Esther
Grounded. Family-Driven. Genuine.
30F | 168 cm | Gold Coast, AUS | CSI | Master’s | English, Kannada, Tulu | Occupational Therapist
Ideal Match: A born-again believer with a stable career, family-oriented, respectful, preferably Indian, and based in Australia.
Stewart
Faith-driven business owner, biker & counselor
39M | 175 cm | South Carolina, USA | Protestant | Bachelor’s | English | Licensed Therapist
Ideal Match: An energetic, open-minded & adventurous Christian woman, preferably in North America (bonus if she likes bikes!)
All done for this week! Thanks for reading and being part of The Equally Yoked community. We’ll see you next Friday with more advice, real stories, a spotlight on amazing singles, and a dash of humor. Until then, a little nugget to remember: “A marriage built with God is a three-stranded cord - itcannot be easily broken by life's storms”
Talk soon,
The Equally Yoked Team
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