There’s a quiet script most of us are living by, without even realizing it:
Find Mr. or Miss Right.
Have the dream wedding.
Build a happily ever after.
We assume it’s just a matter of time and effort - and so, we keep on keeping on.
Thing is, none of these are guaranteed.
People come and go.
You may meet your “soulmate”… or maybe you won’t.
Even the most promising “this could be it” stories don’t always become it.
And while you’re busy trying to find “the one,” you might be ignoring the One who made your soul—the only Person you are guaranteed to meet.
One meeting is a “maybe”.
The other is already on your calendar - you just don’t know the date.
Quick Reality Check:
Paul the Apostle puts it plainly:
“For we will all stand before the judgment seat of God.” (Romans 14:10)
No ambiguity there. No caveats.
And Christ takes it a step further:
“For what will it profit a man if he gains the whole world and forfeits his soul?” (Matthew 16:26)
Think about that for a second.
You can get everything you ever wanted - the career, the marriage, the influence, the life you imagined…and still lose the one thing that’s guaranteed and eternal.
So what is this “waiting season” really for?
Most of us treat it like a holding room.
Like life is on pause until the right person shows up.
But what if this season is not a pause. Rather, it’s the much needed prep time.
Because if meeting God is the only sure thing, then this season isn’t empty space—it’s training ground.
Think about how you’d prepare to meet the CEO of your company.
The attention to detail.
The intentionality.
The seriousness and weight of it.
Now multiply that by infinity.
That’s the meeting you’re moving toward.
So before you pour everything into finding a spouse, focus on these:
1. Keep God First (not casually, actually)
“I’ll get serious later” sounds harmless… but it’s not.
Later feels available. Later feels right. Later feels safe.
But later is not promised.
Our Lord made the priority clear: “Seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.” (Matthew 6:33)
And Paul shows how it’s done: “I discipline my body and keep it under control…” (1 Corinthians 9:27)
This isn’t passive. It’s intentional.
If you’re guaranteed to fully step into the relationship with God one day, it doesn’t make sense to treat Him like an afterthought now.
2. Work on yourself
Ignore the aesthetics for a moment. What’s trending today won’t tomorrow.
Focus instead on being a good steward of what you already have.
“Whoever is faithful in very little is also faithful in much.” (Luke 16:10)
Your finances matter.
Your health matters.
Your habits matter.
Not because they make you attractive - but because they make you trustworthy. Dependable.
Because if you neglect these “small” but foundational things, everything you build on top of them will eventually expose it.
3. Build relationships wisely (yes, even romantic ones)
Relationships aren’t the problem. Misplaced expectations are.
We often look for someone to complete us, steady us, give direction to our lives.
That’s too much weight for another human being to carry.
Paul puts it plainly:
“Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers.” (2 Corinthians 6:14)
This isn’t about dividing folks. It’s about alignment.
About walking with someone who’s headed in the same direction - under the same yoke - sharing the weight, not pulling against each other.
You’re not looking for relationships to fix your life.
You’re looking for someone who:
- is a fellow pilgrim… growing in Christ.
- respects your discipline and focus
- strengthens your walk, instead of distracting you
Because the wrong relationships won’t just slow you down - they will quietly pull you in a different direction.
Why We Keep Getting This Backwards
Because uncertainty feels urgent. We fixate on questions like:
Will I meet someone? When will it happen? What if I miss my chance?
Meanwhile, we neglect the one reality that is certain.
Jesus warns about exactly this: “Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow…” (Matthew 6:34). Yet most of our anxiety is tied to timelines, outcomes, relationships and the thousand “what ifs.”
So we chase the “maybe” and neglect the “definitely.”
When you realize what is actually promised, things settle.
The One who knew you before anyone noticed you.
The One who loved you before you earned anything.
Has placed you where you are—for a reason.
And you are going to have that meeting.
That’s not a maybe.
That’s certain.
So the question isn’t, “Will things work out?”
The question is: Are you ready?
