Dating feels harder than ever. 91% of singles say so. 78% are burned out on dating apps (Forbes). Or as one Redditor put it: “Dating these days is exhausting—the experience is often disappointing.”
But here’s the good news for the Christian single: “Be anxious about nothing, but in everything, by prayer and thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God…” — Philippians 4:6
In today’s email:
“My Christian boyfriend won’t commit after 4 years. What do I do?”
Stuck in a small church? 3 ways to expand your dating pool.
Meet this week’s bachelors & bachelorettes 🎉
“My Christian boyfriend won’t commit after 4 years. What do I do?”
I’m 28, he’s 27, and we’ve been together four years. Every time I bring up marriage, he reacts like I’ve asked him to donate a kidney. We’ve been in couples therapy for eight months — the only real upside is our therapist’s new car.
Meanwhile, he’s “Employee of the Month” at home, running errands and paying bills for his parents, while I’m left on the sidelines. Most of our friends are married, some with kids — and we’re still acting like it’s year one.
Here’s my fear: I’ll blink, turn 30, and realize he was never sure. So what do I do? Stay and hope he figures it out — or cut my losses before I’m back on Christian dating apps battling 23-year-olds?
Reddit weighed in—and they didn’t hold back:
He’s not serious. Four years? That’s insane. You want marriage; he doesn’t. I hope you’re not giving him wife perks on a girlfriend salary! Men often stay put when they get the benefits without the vows.
Give an ultimatum. Set a deadline: marry within 6–12 months or walk. Waiting for the wrong guy steals precious years—you’ll never get them back.
Therapy isn’t enough. Eight months in and no progress? Bring in the heavy hitters—parents, pastor, or a wise couple—and force a straight answer.
Here’s the takeaway:
He’s 27. Lots of guys this age are still finding their feet, and marriage might not even be on their radar. Add in that he’s supporting his parents, and marriage could feel like more than he can handle.
There’s more to this than ultimatums and timelines. Faith and character matter too. So, before you make the call, ask yourself: is he a genuine follower of Christ? Do you see a real desire to live a God-honoring life? If the answer is yes, urge him to reconfirm his commitment to marry in front of your pastor, parents, or trusted mentors—and then work toward it together. If not… life’s too short to be stuck in limbo. Sometimes the bravest and smartest thing you can do is walk.
Stuck in a small church? 3 ways to expand your dating pool.
Martha put it well: "I'd like to start dating again, but my church has very few singles my age. Dating within my congregation feels risky—especially if it doesn’t work out."
Sound familiar? You’re not alone. Many Christian singles feel like the options are slim. But here’s the truth: small pools require smart strategy + trust.
Here’s the game plan:
Mindset first. Stop hunting for “the one”—focus on becoming the right one. (Want a Proverbs 31 woman? Be a Proverbs 1–30 man. Vice versa.)
Use apps wisely. Upward, Hinge, Christian Mingle… they’re tools for introductions, not destinations. Lead with your faith and must-haves.
Expand your walls. Visit another church, volunteer, join a Christian FB group, or try a mission trip. God works through new circles.
💡 Action Steps for this month:
Download 2 apps + create thoughtful profiles.
Join 1 Christian FB group in your area.
Tell 3 trusted friends you’re open to being set up.
Add 1 church/volunteer event to your calendar.
Listen 👇for more!
Who’s in the Singles Spotlight this week?
JASON
Engineer. Encourager. Christ-Follower.
34 | 175 cm | Kuwait, KUW | B.Tech | Baptist | English, Telugu
Jason isn’t your average Joe—or your typical engineer. Born and raised in Kuwait, he is equal parts ambition, faith, and laughter. Friends know him as loyal, hardworking, and the one who always shows up. He’s curious, quick with dry humor, and steady enough to earn the trust of kids and adults alike.
Once a basketball player, now a gym regular, Jason loves travel, food, and laughter that lightens the room. But what truly sets him apart? His faith. Surviving near-death experiences has made him deeply aware that every day is God’s grace—and he lives like he means it.
If you’re praying for a steady, kind, Christ-centered partner, Jason just might be the answer.
JENIFER
Born-Again. Malayali. Foodie.
31 | 157 cm | Kochi, IND | MS | Non-Denominational | English, Malayalam
Meet Jenifer — a vibrant, faith-filled creative with a global story. Born in Saudi, raised in Bahrain, educated in New Zealand and Italy, she now works remotely for an American company in Kochi while building her own side hustle.
Active yet down-to-earth, Jen loves swimming, badminton, painting, cooking, or just unwinding with green tea and long walks.
But beyond the degrees, passport stamps, and hobbies, she’s grounded in something sturdier: her faith. A born-again believer who lives by “Nothing is impossible for the Lord,” Jen is ready for the next chapter — building a Christ-centered home. She’s seeking a believer who’s steady yet adventurous, kind hearted, fun, and a good communicator. Bonus points if he’s Malayali!
More Singles You Shouldn’t Miss.
Smita
A Bangalorean in Berlin.
37 | 156 cm | Berlin, GER | Born-Again | MS Computers | English & Kannada | Software Engineer (Testing)
Ideal Match: A humble, God-fearing Christian, open to relocating to Germany or the EU.
Dr. Sujoy
Doctor-Entrepreneur.
31 | 180 cm | Goa, IND | Catholic | MD | English & Konkani | Top-tier Oncologist
Ideal Match: A catholic woman who prioritizes Bible values, communicates well, and preferably a Konkani-speaking doctor or an engineer. Open to Goa, IN
Seyi
Graceful, Grounded & Purposeful.
40 | 156 cm | Calgary, CAN | Pentecostal | BS in Physics | English & Yoruba | Counselor, transitioning to ITSM
Ideal Match: A trustworthy man who honors God, cherishes family, has clear life goals & the drive to achieve them.
Jeremiah
Driven. Accomplished. Faithful.
41 | 179 cm | Bangalore, IND | Methodist | Masters | English, Tamil & Hindi | Head of Tech Sales at a US MNC
Ideal Match: A fellow Christian, steady and resilient, who faces life’s ups and downs with grace!
Alejandra
Courageous. Faithful. Health-conscious.
37 | 162 cm | New Jersey, USA | Protestant | Spanish & English | Licensed Dentist, currently in transition.
Ideal Match: A God fearing, family-oriented man - loyal, generous, and preferably a Caucasian based in the US.
Angeline
Radiant. Rooted. Real.
27 | 159 cm | Chennai, IND | Catholic | MBA | English & Tamil | Sr. Consultant at a Big4
Ideal Match: A man with high EQ, who shares her catholic roots, financially stable, stays fit without the flex and believes in biblical marriage.
Riyana
Energetic. Intelligent. Empathetic.
35 | 170 cm | Bangalore, IND | CSI - Protestant | B. Tech | English & Malayalam | IT Manager at a US MNC
Ideal Match: A respectful, sociable, and financially stable Christian (open to any denomination)
Prabhu
Grounded. Christ-Centered. Genuine.
42 | 180 cm | Montreal, CAN | Baptist | MS (CS) | English & Telugu | Software Manager with a French conglomerate
Ideal Match: A woman whose heart is anchored in Christ, with a positive outlook and a deep love for family
Deepti
Global Polish with Indian Roots. Podcast Enthusiast.
40 | 160 cm | Bangalore, IND | Pentecostal | MS in Digital Business (New Zealand) | English | Marketing Pro
Ideal Match: A Christian man, a good communicator, professionally stable and preferably based (or willing to move) out of India.
Samuel
Successful. Authentic. Adventurous.
34 | 179 cm | Bangalore, IND | Assemblies of God | BCA + (MBA) | English & Tamil | Manager at a US MNC
Ideal Match: A Christ-centered woman who values trust, transparency and mutual respect.
Anusha
Thinker. Faith-Driven. Kind-Hearted.
36 | 162 cm | Bangalore, IND | Pentecostal | M.A (Lit) | English & Tamil | Project Management Pro at an MNC
Ideal Match: A born-again believer who genuinely fears God, is respectful and understanding, and is rooted in truth over tradition
Esther
Adventurous.Christ-Centered. Vibrant
37 | 165 cm | Dubai, UAE | Born-Again (AG) | MBA | English & Tamil | Director of HR
Ideal Match: A committed believer - fun, proactive and loves to travel. Preferably based in Australia / NZ
All done for this week! Thanks for reading and being part of The Equally Yoked community. We’ll see you next Friday with more advice, real stories, a spotlight on amazing singles, and a dash of humor. Until then, a little nugget to remember: “God doesn’t give you the right person at the wrong time. Wait on Him.”
Talk soon,
The Equally Yoked Team
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