# 42 | Tempted

Some of us have tried the apps, the friends, the church groups - and are still (not-so-happily) single.

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Months before his wife was shot, Caleb Flynn sent his mistress a text. She testified that he wrote he’d kill his wife - if he could do it without going to hell.

Flynn, a former worship pastor and one-time American Idol contestant, told police an intruder had shot his wife, Ashley. A jury convicted him of murder - and earlier this month he was sentenced to life without parole.

That a worship pastor could do this has left many shaken and disillusioned. Some single Christian women are openly wondering if it’s safer to just stay single. After all, if you can’t trust a pastor, who can you trust?

Nobody wakes up one morning and decides to murder his wife. It started long before, and it started small.

You’ve heard the saying: Watch your thoughts, for they become words. Watch your words, for they become actions. And eventually, they become your destiny.

The Bible puts it more starkly: “Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, brings forth death” (James 1:15).

Our Lord warned us time and again about nipping things in the bud. He couldn’t have been more clear when He said “You have heard that it was said by them of old, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her already in his heart” (Matthew 5:27-28).

The Bible is full of people who show us what not to do. And it’s much better to learn from other people’s mistakes, than from your own.

Take King Ahab - the Biblical version of “I see it, I like it, I want it, I got it.” He saw a vineyard that wasn’t his: he liked it and he wanted it. When Naboth refused to sell his family’s land, the king went home, sulked, and wouldn’t eat. His wife Jezebel finished the job in true Jezebel fashion - and Naboth ended up dead (1 Kings 21).

David’s downfall began with a single lingering look. He saw Bathsheba, desired her, took her, and then had her husband Uriah, one of his most loyal soldiers, killed to cover it up (2 Samuel 11).

These were two very different men. Ahab was one of the worst kings Israel ever had. David was one of its best - a man after God’s own heart. Yet both were dragged by the same sinful desire to the same place: the untimely death of an innocent man.

Our minds and hearts are a constant battleground. The battle is often won or lost long before anyone sees anything at all.

Now, we can’t always control which thoughts knock on the door, but we do decide which ones we invite in and feed. Being tempted isn’t the same as giving in. What matters is what we entertain.

And don’t be afraid (even though this world can feel terrifying). None of this is new under the sun. All of us face the same choice: listen to God and leave the forbidden fruit alone, or talk, dream, and reason ourselves into taking a bite.

You cannot see inside anyone else’s head - and you don’t have to. You only have to guard your own.

Naboth, Uriah, and Ashley Flynn are happy and safe now. They’re probably feasting with their Father in heaven - while their murderers got their just desserts.

If I am among those that are shaken by Flynn’s story - I’d say this to myself: Be more afraid for them - not of them.

Missionary kid. Speech-language pathologist. Always on the hunt for her next hiking adventure!

1. Give us the elevator pitch.
I’m Hannah, 31, living in Washington with roots in India. Weekdays I help kids find their words as a school-based speech-language pathologist. And on weekends I’m somewhere between a church hallway, a hiking trail, and a restaurant I’ve never tried.

2. What’s the boldest thing you’ve ever done?
At 29, I moved to a new country and a state where I didn’t have a single relative. New everything. Looking back, I can honestly say, “Thus far the Lord has helped me.” He has been my Ebenezer at every turn.

3. You grew up in a missionary family. What was that like?
Faith and ministry were never a side note in our house. My dad leads a pioneering church ministry in villages across India and oversees a Bible college my grandfather started. My mom is our prayer warrior and serves right beside him. My sister is a social worker in Bangalore, and my brother and his wife teach the Bible. Ministry was never something we squeezed in. It was like oxygen in the house.

4. What do you love about your work?
The kids! Watching a child finally find the words they’ve been hunting for is hard to beat. I love connecting with people and making a difference in a kid’s life, and I get to do it every day.

5. Your calendar looks full. Where does the time go?
I volunteer at Care Net, a pregnancy center. I serve in AWANA and help with preschool at church on Sundays. I’ve been in young adult ministry since 2010. Right now I’m in a 10-month apologetics program with the Colson Fellowship, and I also help run social media for a platform that equips youth to think through their faith. Somewhere in the middle of all that, I still make time to hike :)

6. Myers-Briggs says you’re an ENTJ, “The Commander.” Is that right?
Yes. But I’d add that this Commander laughs a lot. I’m thoughtful and intentional about the things that matter, and I try hard not to take myself too seriously.

7. What does a perfect day off look like?
A hike somewhere beautiful, a new dish I can’t pronounce, and good friends who make me laugh. I love a night in just as much as getting dressed up for a night out - a good balance of the two is my kind of life.

8. Best advice you’ve received about waiting?
That in a season of waiting, we should do what a waiter does: serve. It has shaped how I approach this season. Waiting doesn’t have to be passive. Mine is full of learning, serving, and trusting God.

9. What’s your heart’s mission?
To love God with everything I have, love people well, and be part of His Kingdom reaching every nation. My heart leans toward South Asia and young people, but more than anything I want to bring hope and live faithfully wherever He places me.

10. And the man you’re praying for?
Someone who genuinely loves the Lord. Kind, emotionally mature, intentional, and an open communicator. He takes his faith seriously but knows how to make room for fun. I’d love a marriage that feels like best friendship, full of prayer, adventures, hospitality, quiet ordinary evenings, and lots of laughter. Two people building a home that honors Christ.

Vital Stats
Age: 31 | Location: Washington
Occupation: School-based Speech-Language Pathologist
Denomination: Non-denominational (Pentecostal upbringing)